friend of your children, be familiar with movies that your
kids are watching, books they are reading, and music they
are listening to. Do your best to get relationships that are
warm in tone, hard in order, and friendly in communication.
The modern media are full of dangerous material with the wrong
messages. Sex relations rarely mean more than sex, just few
people having sex not planning be married or even especially
committed to anyone. Rare mentioned the unplanned pregnancy
or sexually transmitted diseases. Is it what you try to explain
according to your expectations and values? I think it is not
and it is why so important to talk with your children about
the media representation and your point of view, based on
your knowledge and experience.
In your family, you must to establish rules and standards
of estimated behavior. If possible do it during of family
members’ conversation and respectful dialogue. Let say
your kids get out of school at 3 afternoon, but have to work
up to 6 o’clock, who will take care that your children
are safe during those hours, and not involved in bad behavior?
Where are they going with friends? Who are their friends?
Try to cooperate with your kids’ friends’ parents
and make a schedule when some adults always be in charge.
You have to control and watch your kids' not because you are
a mole; it is because you are parents.
Talk straight about sexual values and attitudes. Answer at
your children questions about sex, love, and possible pregnancy.
Frequently it could be more successful then you will always
repeat that teen’s sex is bad. To prepare yourselves
for this, imagine the all variety of possible questions. Children
always are interesting in many questions about sex, and it
does not mean anything abnormal. Your kids like any other
their friends often prefer their parents as the source they'd
most like to trust. From the beginning of conversation you
have to make sure that it is sincere, friendly, and respectful.
If you need to begin, you can use situations shown on television
or in movies like a reason to start this conversation. Your
conversation has to be build candidly and confidently, but
you must to say why you take this theme. If you're afraid
off or not sure about some issues for the first discussion,
tell them that, too. It has to be a two-way conversation,
not your own lecture. The good idea to ask them what they
think, what is worries them, and what they know so you can
correct your plan. It is important for both sons and daughters
and to both mothers and fathers. Opinion that if you have
a son, you have not reason to worry about it is wrong.
Tell to them regarding love and sex relationships, and how
to distinguish it. Kids want your assistance to accept the
importance of sex life. Don’t forget to explain the
motives why all sides of sexuality are so interesting for
kids; and show the possible troubles of early sex life, like:
unplanned pregnancy and disease misses many of the issues
on teenagers' minds.
You have to know better your children's friends and their
families and don’t afraid to say if you against some
of them. Explain why it is, for example you must to exclude
dating with significantly older or much younger partner. And
again at my point of view it does not matter we are talking
about boys or girls. Any parents will to keep equal, regular,
and stable dating. At the same time, allowing teens to begin
steady, one-on-one dating much before age 16 can guide to
problems. Let your child know that it is not, because you
just hate the particular individual. It is your position and
you have to be firm about it.